At some point soon after graduating college, women are given a choice: pursue a family or pursue a career.  The pressure comes from all sides.  Someone says, “How are you planning to use your newly earned degree?”  Someone else says, “Why isn’t a pretty little thing like you married yet?” The dichotomy even appears in our own thoughts. “But I like my job and I have to pay the bills.” “But I desperately want to be married and have kids.” “But I don’t have time to date.” “But I want somebody to love.” “But I’ve always wanted to be a ___.”

My point here is not to argue one side or the other.  I’m not going to say one is right for you or the other wrong, or even that it must be only one or the other.  I want to suggest a third option:

Choose to pursue God.

The lions may grow weak and hungry,
   but those who seek the LORD lack no good thing.

~Psalm 34:10

Warning: The pursuit of the Lord will take you on an adventure that you will never have thought of yourself.  Rarely will it turn out as you once imagined*. You may not have the perfect career woman’s resume.  You may not be married by that deadline you gave yourself when you were 15.  You may not have the house, the job, the 2.5 kids and the white picket fence. It will be hard.

Give up the dream career and the picket-fence family to follow God, and what are you left with? God Himself.  Seek the Lord and He will give you Himself in all of His goodness and glory.  Do this, and He promises to take care of everything that you need**.  That may include your dream job, or a job you never thought of but absolutely love.  It may include a marriage that honors the Lord, and the bundles of joy that become your charges.  It may include bits and pieces of all of the above, or none of it at all.  Here’s the thing: God knows exactly what you need and those who seek the Lord lack no good thing.

*Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, 21 to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.

~Ephesians 3:20-21

**But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.

~Matthew 6:33

P.S. If you want to hear how this has played out for me over the last several years, I am happy to share the good and the hard with you. Just ask.